There are two mysterious things in the universe. Black holes, and relationships. Scientists regularly debate whether they exist, or how they work. Indeed, some would prefer to ignore them altogether. But, it is the intention of this article to use both to explain one another, in a strictly theoretical context.
In physics, one of the primary effects in the universe is gravity. Gravity is not so much of a force as an effect. Mass distorts the space/time falling objects local in relativity to the larger object to fall towards it. In simpler terms, things are pulled towards each other due to currents that cannot be seen.
Following much the same course, love follows this path. Love is not so much of a force as an effect. We are indisputably attracted to one another, and cannot resist the effect, even over great distances. We are driven to seek the presence of the other person, the source, the one who we know we will fall in love with.
If you analyse this first dimension of parallels, love is completely equatable to gravity, because both use the word “falls” as the action verb in describing their reaction to one another. One falls down the black hole. One falls in love.
The black hole is the definitive triumph of gravity over the universe, just as a relationship is the ultimate triumph of love over the universe. In both cases, despite your backgrounds, despite what happens, you are still drawn down the well towards one another. And through this, you will inevitably become physically in proximity to one another, though it may take years, it will eventually happen.
It has been said that two bodies in relation to another are at rest unless outside pressure is involved, and this is very correct in physics. Indeed it is a fundamental law. Relationships work much the same way. They are at rest unless an outside force intervenes. (And by rest, I don’t mean that there are not other forces at work, just as there are subatomic forces at work influencing our atoms, there are various universal sliptides affecting the universe) So we must examine two human beings at rest to really understand how the universal law of gravitation applies to human beings.
Typically both humans obey the law of entropy. In a healthy relationship, they adopt the optimum positions for orbit. of course, this allows a whole field of theory to string up for atypical relationships and strange orbits, but, we will leave that for another article. The essential thing here is that, if we picture two human beings in bed, lying side by side, they are in perfect harmony. In orbit, around each other, on a planet spinning at thousands of miles per hour, travelling through space. But, at that moment, their lives revolve around each other, the rest of the universe does not matter.
Now, a Black hole has something called an event horizon. Beyond this, light does not escape. Imagine that, something so light as a particle that is lighter than an electron is still unable to escape, the fundamental speed limit of the cosmos (as defined by relativity) is sucked backwards, despite all its best efforts. This is the effect of a black hole. Nothing escapes, including light.
The Black hole accomplishes this by warping space time around itself. Its gravitation is so intense that it literally is wrapping itself in blankets of space time as it travels through the universe. Thus, it orbits along its own axis, and through its intense pull, manages to draw everything down its space/time continuum towards itself. A perfect beautiful embrace of relativity. You either join with the singularity or you are left outside in the cold.
The same is true of relationships. In bed, two partners seem equal, but, one is always the black hole. That does not mean they are physically more massive, but, they are physically better able to spin, thus creating a polarizing energy, and wrapping layers (instead of space/time) of blankets around them. They will pull all blankets in towards them. For the remaining partner, there are only two physical choices. Come closer to the source of attraction (just as gravity compels them to do) or else be left to entropy, to pass into the frigid nothingness of the empty side of the bed.
Even the actual dynamics of these two relations are similar. The black hole spins fast to create its gravity. The spouse who attracts blankets spins faster than their partner to attract their bedsheets. The only choice is to dive into the black hole, to huddle closer to your partner, because the alternative is to perish in cold emptiness.
There is the additional prerogative (in both cases) that not only a pre-existing attraction exists (because otherwise they wouldn’t be in an orbit/relationship with one another) and it involves physical proximity. A black hole cannot pull in a star unless they are close enough to interact. In the same way, your partner cannot pull your blankets off you unless you are already in a committed relationship.
In this way, we can see Black holes are the universes messengers of love. They pull us in, they wrap us tight, and ultimately, without them, we are cold. In love, we provide gravitational support for our partners, and are the centres of their local gravitational system, locked together for the common cause of love and warmth against the cold uncaring cosmos.
So next time you read a science fiction novel or report about how a black hole rips things apart, it is simply not true. It is simply pulling the covers of the universe closer to itself so as to reflect warmth into the world. Just as your partner innocently wraps themselves in blankets in order to feel warmer, and in turn, perpetuate their love for you, so is it true without their existence, your universe would be dry and cold.
So salute black holes and lovers, for they are the ones that pull us in, make us part of ourselves, and make us experience the universe more fully. Because the ultimate law applies in both situations: Like attracts like. We achieve our orbits/relationships in respect to one another through the physics of our original energy, or else we achieve them through fierce attraction.
But, there is nothing more incredible than being lost in the attraction of your beloveds eye. Though they may pull the covers, though they may trap us in, we willingly hold them closer, as twin entities lost in the universe, for even as great as the stars are, they all have their companions. As humans, we also have our companions, and are enriched by their love as a result, even when it consumes us in the irrestistable grip of the fires of the universe.
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